Saturday, September 13, 2008
6:33 PM
break up
okay. cherp said he helped out in another few break up.
-one is the guy purposely touched the girl ass
-third party
regarding touching ass.... this tells that the guy wanted to be more close..... do more things.... but !!! no respect for the girl.... seriously no respect... in this sense why are you staying with her then... it is indirectly treating her as an sex object... no point mah.... respect her lah...
do not do things without her permission. things meaning about incidents that will greatly affect her. consideration...
so in this kind of situation.. it is better to ask... asked if you had reached the stage where she will allow you to do such things to her... to me.... this include holding hands.... no following the cinema... walk walk, hand touched each other, then hold... a bit the nice lah.... but to me... the respect is lacking.... ppl won't have a respect for prositute cuz they treated themselves losely... so treating someone with respect means you don't treat them "losely" they are not anyone placed there to be 'touched'
this include night scene.... the most common and sensible excuse is "i'm tired" so before you ask for it.... lets just ask 'are you tired today" then if it is a no, then continue one lah.... the news have so many articles of ppl fist fighting becuz of the wrong approach. good grief
third party leh.... it is mostly about one party not having faith in the other.
there is something called jealousy... guys have a large amount of jealousy.... this is my girl... and i'm not sharing... so when the girl have FRIENDS who are guys..... showing a little care, like talking to them, can make the guy insanely jealous..... hey, i'm not receiving the attention... then, if u pinpoint out the matter, what would happen? the girl may feel hurt as the guy did not trust her.... the guy felt that they are being cheated of. so how? keep quiet lor.... see how long you can stand it lah.
one relationship that can last long.... till the end... giving in to each other....
if u view urself as a robot... the there will be this Remote Control "RC" which most of the time, you keep it to yourself and you control ur own action.... then when in a relationship.... do you still keep the RC, give the other party some control, or total control... total control is nice.... but can you handle it? handle the negative part of a person? oh... tough luck....
if i ever have a remote control.... it would be those with the top with button, then a two flips. flip open the bottom part of the remote, then there will be more button.
the basic button:
-talking
-doing simple actions
-logic
first flip:
-attack
-dominate
second flip:
-serious situation
-thinking / religion
-total dominance
as much as i can say..... i like the other party to have the fun..... let them play lah... see how they do it... but then, certain things will not change.... when i think i need to step out to do it, the situation lost control.... hey give me back my RC.
ernest asked me this:
"what is the thing you want ppl to say to you?
1. i want to be ur gf
2.u win a million dollars"
start with 2 first.... i'll say really? then asked for the cash... no terms and condition... and if everything is okay.... well, take the money..... free loader...
okay.. number 1. what i'll say:
YOU ARE NUTS.
and i am serious. apparently, you got fooled.... but then be kind lah... observation time... with a time span of six months.... why six months.... by the time it is over.... no matter how good ur acting is.... you would basically revealed everything. and then, if you still have the feeling after six months.... whoa.... you are pro...
regarding gender roles:
so the guys are supose to be macho and stuff
and the girls being lady like.
lets see first, ppl, make up society, and society set this rules.... so if you are following it... it is okay... but don't hundred percent stick to it...
this is what i think about who should do "what":
-asking the other party out
[ well mostly is the guys... but girls also can lah okay? ]
-holding hands and the rest
[ ps the girls, drop hints lah.... we respect you... not touching you inappropriately ]
-propose
[ this is where the guys put what they learnt in the cinema to the test ]
and after that leh... compromises....can liao lor..
